Most people are afraid of fear. I know I am. Once I feel that twinge of fear in my stomach or on the back of my neck, my first instinct is to back away or retreat into a place where I feel safe again. What I'm realizing, though, is that my fears are there for a reason, and I need to engage with them, play with them, set a table for them, and have a meal with them. Instead of running away.
Yes, if a bus is coming at you full speed you should be afraid and jump out of the way. But there's another type of fear that isn't there to save us from death, but it just there, and it's our responsibility to ask that fear: what are you trying to tell me?
Most of the time, fears like this are there because you're on the brink of something massive. Whether it's a huge life decision, a creative project, a career change, or whatever, we often let our fears scare us when all those fears really wanted to do was take us out for lunch and tell us: you're onto something great. Yes, you feel like you're going to hurl, but it's going to be great.
So instead of running from our fears, maybe we need to run into our fears and take them out for lunch. Get to know them. Ask them questions. Think about them. Take notes about them. And then see what great things grow out of those fears.
So next time you're afraid, eat a meal with fear. See what happens.